When You’re Wondering If You Should Keep Going

There was a moment not long ago when I sat down to work on this and just stopped, wondering if I should keep going. Closed the laptop. Sat there. And genuinely asked myself: does anyone even care about this? And maybe more honestly — do I have anything left to give it?

If you have ever found yourself wondering if you should keep going with something that matters to you, I want to tell you what happened next. And why I am still here.

I also made a short video about this one — you can watch it below.

The Call Nobody Wants to Get

That day started well. Our out-of-town kids had just left after a long weekend visit. The house was quiet in that particular way it gets after a full house empties out. It was good. Everything felt right in the world.

Less than fifteen minutes later, my phone rang.

It happened a block from our home. I was there in a minute. Two police cars. An ambulance. John's motorcycle lying in the road, oozing something I did not stop to identify. And John — sitting on the dirt at the side of the road, dazed, a little bloody, banged up.

My favorite moment? Fully alive.

The person who caused the accident left him lying there, pinned under his motorcycle, and drove away. Strangers called for help. That matters to me more than I can possibly say.

And in the days since — our kids showing up, friends and neighbors bringing meals, the messages, the calls — I honestly cannot imagine getting through this without any of it.

Somewhere in all of that, I found myself wondering: is the universe trying to tell me something I cannot yet hear?

If that question feels familiar — if you are somewhere in the middle and not sure whether to push through or let go — that is exactly what Where Are You In Your Becoming? was made for. Eight questions. Two minutes. No wrong answers. It will tell you where you are and point you toward what might actually help.

I've Been Here Before

Here's the thing though. I have been through this before.

When I was 50, I went back to school for my master's degree. The doubt at the beginning was enormous. Embarrassing, almost. Who does this at 50? What if I cannot keep up? What if everyone else is 24?

They were. And I could not find the bathroom. I eventually did. It took me longer than most people.

And I became a therapist. An actual one, with clients and an office and everything.

The doubt did not mean stop. It meant: this matters enough to be scary. Psychology Today says it better than I can: struggle is not a signal to stop — it is a signal that you are engaged in something meaningful. If you are rebuilding something after a loss or a shift you did not ask for, you already know this feeling. It showed up when you started too. (And if you are just getting started, read this: The Day I Stopped Waiting to Feel Ready)

Then I Thought About You – And Whether to Keep Going

So I thought about that. And then I thought about you.

Because I know who finds their way here. You are not here because everything is fine. You are here because something is hard and uncertain, and you are trying to figure out if you should keep going. Maybe it is a new chapter you are building after a big loss. Maybe it is something you started for yourself — a project, a practice, a whole new direction — and life just walked in and made it very complicated. (Sound familiar? This one is for you )

And if I quit because things got hard — what does that say to the woman reading this at midnight asking herself the same question?

I am not going to tell you I have it figured out. I do not. My husband is still on crutches and has a long way to go. I continue to find my footing with this work. And I STILL wonder if I should keep going, especially when there is so much to do and not enough time. But quitting when it is hard is a completely different thing from quitting when it is done.

And I am not done. Though sometimes I continue to wonder if I should keep going.

So I am still here. A lot tired. A little scattered. Definitely running on more caffeine than is strictly advisable.

But here.

And if you are sitting with that same question today — whether to keep going with something that matters to you — I want to leave you with this:

The doubt is not a stop sign. It might be the most honest sign you will get that something actually matters.

If you're still wondering if you should keep going, I'll take that as a yes. Think about it. And then come find us in The Thrive Hive — because wherever you are in this, you do not have to be there alone. That is the whole point.

You're Not the Only One Asking

A few questions that come up when life makes you wonder whether to keep going.